One would be sanguine about the dismantlement of gender inequality within our culture in 2018 however it is unfortunate that we must admit it still exists. Amidst this all, one belief that is innate for me is that of women empowerment due to the legacy of Dhan Dhan Mata Sahib Kaur Ji.
With an almighty yet graceful presence, Mata Sahib Kaur Ji is the definition of not only a dedicated and selfless Gurmukh but also an ideal of a Singhni of the Khalsa Panth. Whilst the Western world celebrates a 100 years since the suffrage movement, I have taken time to reflect on the sacrifices our own spiritual ancestors which have been made for womanhood within Sikhi.
Mata Sahib Kaur Ji demonstrated qualities of being not only a soul bride but a mother expressing unconditional love for their children. Whilst I am a wife with hopes of becoming a mother on day, I understand the role of a wife is one that is constantly evolving. Upon contemplation, one is not taught how to be a wife but only shown the processes of completing household chores. Because the encounters and events within a marriage are so diverse, one cannot compare or contrast with others, making it difficult for there to exist any universal advice. There does however exist a universal truth, through Gurbani, through the Laavan composed by Guru Ram Das Ji.
From this we learn the fundamental purpose of marriage is to gain sangat with another soul to ultimately connect together to discover the true Lord. It is easy to immerse within the cultural traditional and celebratory rituals however by remembering the veracious act of the Anand Karaj, one is reminded of the actual meaning of marriage. Although it is absolute that we cannot compare our own marriages to that of the blessedness of Mata Sahib Kaur Ji’s Anand Karaj to Guru Gobind Singh Ji Maharaj, we can only admire that Guru Ram Das Ji has already equipped us to experience a marriage that is similarly sacred.
Because we are so consumed by chasing Maya within the materialist world, one can only hope that we take the time to remember the true meaning behind the Laavan that we committed to.